Cincinnati Reds Rally on Fountain Square

so excited to see them go far!!!!! all the way reds!!

what's bugging you?

Dear Great Value, (wal-mart brand)

I opened this particular can of spinach, my taste buds watering, craving some spinach and there was something discolored in it. Not thinking anything of it I poured the contents of said can into a small pot and set it on the stove to cook. Upon serving, I decided to remove discolored piece only to notice it was a grasshopper's lower body with one leg still attached. I removed said piece but the damage was already done and i just threw the whole can in the garbage. I cooked a can of great value green beans too but could not eat that either because at that point it seemed as though my plate was teaming with grasshoppers. My appetite was ruined, even though I was assured by my mom that it was just added protein that it would do no harm, I couldn't get past the fact that there was still a grasshopper's lower body in my spinach. I am aware of how spinach grows, that one day, there could be a possibility of a bug piece in my vegetables, however, there is no warning on the can other than "allergy warning: may contain traces of PEANUTS" Although I am confused as to how this is even possible, and don't really want to know how it even COULD be possible, I do believe that changing the warning to 'traces of insects' would be a bit unappetizing to say the least. I am only writing to let you know that your bug-picker-outer was taking a smoke break <--(Mike's words) when my can of spinach went through the separation process. I don't think I will be buying any more spinach for a while either way by any manufacturer.

yes this was my actual complaint that I sent to Wal-Mart

ps yes I still work there....LOL

oil spill

I hope you weren't thinking that I wasn't going to post my opinion on the oil spill. I actually am quite speechless on this matter. I think there is only one person to blame and that's the head honcho of the oil company responsible for doing the drilling. It is ultimately his responsibility to make sure that everyone that gets hired into his company knows what they are doing and to do the work right and safely.

Here is an article that my friend on facebook posted (thanks Carlyn) about the wildlife now being effected by the oil on the shore of Louisiana. Caught in the oil - The Big Picture - Boston.comIt's super sad. Most of the comments are valid and good points. Stop blaming the president, stop blaming the oil company start blaming yourself. I didn't make this damn mess but I am just as oil dependant as the rest of the world and am not afraid to admit it. The comment I got bothered by, now mind you I just skimmed the comments rather quickly not reading the first 500 or so but one really caught my eye. #573 was ORIGINALLY posted as "if we as humans cared about human life as much as the oil spill then there wouldn't be the issue of abortion and all the aborted babies." Something along those lines.
#691 is my comment

SOAP BOX TIME
I am proud to say I am pro choice. Is abortion a form of birth control? HELL NO! I once knew a girl that used it as such and I thought she was lower than scum. I personally would never get an abortion, I refuse to mess with what nature intended and I also know that when two people lay down with intentions on having sex, there is always the possibility that this could result in making a child whether that was the intentions or not. I am fully aware of my potential consequences. The comment was not relevant to the subject matter at hand and when I read it I shook my head and said "ohhh please!" Sometimes I just wish people would shut the hell up and not post crap if they have no thought process to back it up.

Andy Rooney is clueless?

i60 Minutes/i' Andy Rooney Gunning for Gaga

This is just a short video of Andy Rooney expressing how little he knows on the world of music. He mentions artists like Sting and The Rolling Stones. Yea of course he would know who they are, they are about as old as him! He thinks of himself as a "normal, regular" guy that was in the army got married had kids and bought a house. Doesn't he know what year it is? This day in age more people are having kids, getting married maybe. Half of the people out there don't have jobs anymore either because they lost them or are too damn lazy to get one in the first place. This is the day in age where a lot of people that owned homes were foreclosed upon due to the sinking economy. So to be classified as normal now a days would almost be an insult to me. I consider myself above average. I have a job that pays above minimum wage and have had it for over 8 years now. I too served in the army, got married, had a child and bought a home. Hell I even own my truck. I don't know everyone on the Billboard top 200 list but I have heard of most of them. No i am not an avid Justin Bieber fan myself but I think Andy here needs to quit playing his records and go out and buy his first Ludacris cd or even Lady Gaga (not gah-guh). I can only assume that this is the Billboard 200 Artists chart he was talking about (although I only see 100 on here you can get the point right away) Either this man has lived under a rock since 1990 or needs to really click on youtube every now and then


The Billboard 200 Artists
Issue Date: 2009

# Artist Number of Charted titles Label
1 TAYLOR SWIFT 3 Big Machine
2 MILEY CYRUS 6 Hollywood
3 BEYONCE 2 Music World/Columbia/Sony Music
4 NICKELBACK 1 Roadrunner
5 RASCAL FLATTS 3 Lyric Street
6 BRITNEY SPEARS 3 Jive/JLG
7 KANYE WEST 1 Roc-A-Fella/Def Jam/IDJMG
8 LADY GAGA 1 Streamline/KonLive/Cherrytree/Interscope/IGA
9 EMINEM 1 Web/Shady/Aftermath/Interscope/IGA
10 THE BLACK EYED PEAS 1 Interscope/IGA
11 KINGS OF LEON 1 RCA/RMG
12 JAY-Z 2 Roc Nation/AG
13 JONAS BROTHERS 6 Hollywood
14 DAVID COOK 1 19/RCA/RMG
15 ZAC BROWN BAND 3 Roar/Bigger Picture/Home Grown/Atlantic/AG
16 SUGARLAND 3 Mercury Nashville/UMGN
17 PINK 1 LaFace/JLG
18 JAMIE FOXX 1 J/RMG
19 U2 1 Island/Interscope/IGA
20 DAUGHTRY 2 19/RCA/RMG
21 CARRIE UNDERWOOD 2 19/Arista Nashville/SMN
22 KEYSHIA COLE 2 Imani/Geffen/IGA
23 DAVE MATTHEWS BAND 2 Bama Rags/RCA/RMG
24 MAXWELL 1 Columbia/Sony Music
25 GREEN DAY 2 Reprise/Warner Bros.
26 T.I. 1 Grand Hustle/Atlantic/AG
27 KENNY CHESNEY 3 BNA/SMN
28 JASON MRAZ 2 Atlantic/AG
29 DARIUS RUCKER 1 Capitol Nashville
30 COLDPLAY 2 Capitol
31 GEORGE STRAIT 3 MCA Nashville/UMGN
32 MICHAEL JACKSON 6 MJJ/Epic/Sony Music
33 AC/DC 2 Columbia/Sony Music
34 WHITNEY HOUSTON 1 Arista/RMG
35 KELLY CLARKSON 1 S/19/RCA/Sony Music
36 THE FRAY 1 Epic/Sony Music
37 JASON ALDEAN 1 Broken Bow
38 MICHAEL BUBLE 2 143/Reprise/Warner Bros.
39 LADY ANTEBELLUM 1 Capitol Nashville
40 KEITH URBAN 3 Capitol Nashville
41 IL DIVO 1 SYCO/Columbia/Sony Music
42 AKON 1 Konvict/Upfront/SRC/Universal Motown/UMRG
43 THE KILLERS 1 Island/IDJMG
44 KID ROCK 1 Top Dog/Atlantic/AG
45 LIL WAYNE 3 Cash Money/Universal Motown/UMRG
46 TOBY KEITH 3 Show Dog Nashville
47 LUDACRIS 1 DTP/Def Jam/IDJMG
48 KATY PERRY 1 Capitol
49 BRUCE SPRINGSTEEN 2 Columbia/Sony Music
50 SHINEDOWN 1 Atlantic/AG
51 ANDREA BOCELLI 2 Sugar/Decca
52 DAVID ARCHULETA 2 19/Jive/JLG
53 GUNS N' ROSES 1 Black Frog/Geffen/IGA
54 ENYA 1 Reprise/Warner Bros.
55 DEMI LOVATO 2 Hollywood
56 BRAD PAISLEY 3 Arista Nashville/SMN
57 THEORY OF A DEADMAN 1 604/Roadrunner
58 HOLLYWOOD UNDEAD 3 A&M/Octone/IGA
59 ADELE 2 XL/Columbia/Sony Music
60 METALLICA 1 Warner Bros.
61 NE-YO 1 Def Jam/IDJMG
62 JAMEY JOHNSON 1 Mercury Nashville/UMGN
63 RIHANNA 2 SRP/Def Jam/IDJMG
64 KERI HILSON 1 Mosley/Zone 4/Interscope/IGA
65 THE ALL-AMERICAN REJECTS 1 Doghouse/DGC/Interscope/IGA
66 THE-DREAM 1 Radio Killa/Def Jam/IDJMG
67 ANTHONY HAMILTON 1 Mister's Music/So So Def/JLG
68 TIM MCGRAW 3 Curb
69 KIDZ BOP KIDS 5 Razor & Tie
70 SEAL 1 143/Warner Bros.
71 MARIAH CAREY 3 Island/IDJMG
72 FAITH HILL 1 Warner Bros. (Nashville)/WRN
73 ALAN JACKSON 3 Arista Nashville/SMN
74 BOB DYLAN 4 Columbia/Sony Music
75 HARRY CONNICK, JR. 2 Columbia/Sony Music
76 RICK ROSS 1 Maybach/Slip-N-Slide/Def Jam/IDJMG
77 FALL OUT BOY 1 Decaydance/Fueled By Ramen/Island/IDJMG
78 BARBRA STREISAND 1 Columbia/Sony Music
79 JOHN LEGEND 1 G.O.O.D./Columbia/Sony Music
80 T-PAIN 2 Konvict/Nappy Boy/Jive/JLG
81 COLBIE CAILLAT 2 Universal Republic/UMRG
82 CHICKENFOOT 1 Redline
83 PEARL JAM 1 Monkeywrench
84 DIANA KRALL 1 Verve/VG
85 MUSIQ SOULCHILD 2 Atlantic/AG
86 PARAMORE 3 Fueled By Ramen/AG
87 PLIES 1 Big Gates/Slip-N-Slide/Atlantic/AG
88 CHRISETTE MICHELE 1 Def Jam/IDJMG
89 JADAKISS 1 Ruff Ryders/D-Block/Roc-A-Fella/Def Jam/IDJMG
90 SOULJA BOY TELL'EM 1 ColliPark/Interscope/IGA
91 TREY SONGZ 1 Song Book/Atlantic/AG
92 LEONA LEWIS 1 SYCO/J/RMG
93 MIRANDA LAMBERT 2 Columbia (Nashville)/SMN
94 JENNIFER HUDSON 1 Arista/RMG
95 HINDER 1 Universal Republic/UMRG
96 ROB THOMAS 1 Emblem/Atlantic/AG
97 CASTING CROWNS 2 Beach Street/Reunion/Sony Music
98 3OH!3 1 Photo Finish
99 ELVIS PRESLEY 1 RCA Nashville/SMN
100 MARY MARY 1 My Block/Columbia/Sony Music

used (without permission) from Billboard.biz

aging

All weekend I was fighting this whole aging process. I didn't want today, the day I become 30 years old, to come. I was dreading it..loathing it in fact. But here the day is and now is almost over. I woke up feeling the same as yesterday, which can be good or bad considering I feel like I have not accomplished anything in my life. I feel like my life is mediocre, not up to it's fullest potential but am proud of the accomplishments I have made.

I have made it through 3 decades. I did not jump into the middle of one either. I was born in 1980 so I started and completed 3 decades. I thank my parents for bringing me into the world and raising me to be who I am today. Who I am today is a very strong, smart woman that loves everyone regardless of your race, religion or any differences. I was brought up that we are all people and to think about others before I do anything because my actions might hurt someone else in the process. Sometimes though, you have to do things and hurt others in the process even though you don't really want to.

Now that the day is here I am proud to be who I am. I am 30 years old! I don't look it or feel it which is the most important part and I have a wonderful group of friends and family that love me. I want to thank you all for making this birthday great. Thank you so much for being my friend!

HOLY FU<%!*# SHIT!

Ok I am officially PISSED THE HELL OFF!!!! Why did some days go by, a little over a week in fact since I have heard from this holy nightmare and she's emailing me again!? here's the latest. I am beyond PISSED!! I wanna drive to where she is and punch her in the face! I am sooo pissed!! a whole 7 days! grrrrr

Gloria M P April 27 at 1:42am Report
ok i see that he deleted ur ass so again u r of no important so just wanted to say that i don't care bout u and my family will never b affected by u

Crystal H K April 27 at 7:43pm
that's soo great!! you should have never been affected by me in the first place. sorry if my befriending ryan offended you in any way. He always talked of you as a sweet person but considering I did nothing to you and you write me a threatening email, I'd say he has no idea who you are! You are very immature for someone with children and for their sake, I hope you grow up. Ryan is in Iraq fighting in a war and you do this crap to him while he's gone? Start stuff with me when I haven't spoken to him since last year some time. Whatever. Get a life! I still wish RYAN a happy, long and healthy life and pray you change. I am sorry this has happened to him. He's such a sweet person and doesn't deserve this at all. By the way I am VERY important apparently since you couldn't stand the fact that I was listed as a friend on your husband's facebook page. This requires no reply so do my computer screen a favor and please do not reply. I am keeping all emails in case you decide to do something stupid. Have a great life!

i wanted to write how stupid and illiterate she is but i decided to keep it mature in case this becomes a problem. The shit I have to deal with sometimes. I guess it just keeps me on my toes..keeps some excitement, some spice in my otherwise normal life!

IS THIS GOING TO BE AN EVERY OTHER DAY EVENT?

If so, I want out!! This is the craziest shit since high school drama!! Please people! So today I get another email to my facebook from my friend Ryan's mom telling me I am a waste of time. WHAT! A whole day of quiet and then this piece of randomness!!! HOLY FREAKING GROW UP PLEASE!!!

Here was my response..I am still patting myself on the back for not telling her what I really wanted to say! Which would have involved a few f words and a couple of piss off's.

YOU need to grow up! I was minding my own business, happy, married working full time, raising a child and YOUR IMMATURE daughter in law emailed me telling me she was going to break my "kneck" for talking to her husband, whom I haven't spoken to in months. This is really a sad situation because Ryan is a sweet person and a great friend. This is the kind of drama he doesn't need because he is suppose to be concentrating on his job over in Iraq and now he has to worry about some stuff that is happening back home that is unnecessary! The email from Gloria to me was uncalled for and rude when all she had to do was tell Ryan to delete me or get his password and delete me from his friends list herself. I don't lose sleep over stupid stuff like this but I will not be made to look like I did something wrong when I did nothing! I have no idea how Ryan is even doing although I hope he is well, because the last time I spoke to him I was talking about potty training my son and he has been potty trained since about Thanksgiving now. I have never did anything wrong to you now or in the past to make you have any ill will toward me but if you want to go around hating people then go ahead. If I am such a waste of time, why didn't you just let this go? or let it stay between me and Gloria? I always thought, based on what Ryan said about her, that she was a great person and great for him, but clearly SHE changed my opinion of her. I am no longer on Ryan's friend list anymore, along with all the other female friends he had in high school, so this should be the very LAST correspondence you have to write to me or to read from me. I hope that Ryan lives a long and happy life and I hope that I just wasted more of your time by you reading this. Please grow up and leave me alone as you have for the past 14 years or so.


so my ghetto fairy on the left shoulder, was soo biting it's tongue here..but I wanted my mature side to put this woman in her place. She is suppose to be a mother and a grandmother now, and she is attempting to fight her son's battles, possibly battles he has no idea about??? They started this I was minding my own business, going about my life then I get an email from Ryan's wife and when I read the topic I originally thought he had gotten hurt or worse...., and then read it and all of it's glorified ignorance pouring from the email with numerous spelling and grammatical errors galore, and quickly realized this was a classic case of jealous wife doesn't want her husband to have any female friends. I can't stand jealousy. It is a stupid and pointless emotion!

maturity? NO ROOM FOR THAT HERE!!

Once upon a time, there was this shy dorky girl with long hair and glasses. She had her 4 basic friends. Brandy, Robin, Malissa and Jennifer. Well one day back in 1996 or 1997, a nice guy joined the group of friends and started liking the shy dorky glasses wearing girl. His name was Ryan. He was a funny guy with a great sense of humor and sweet as can be. Had a natural talent for drawing and writing poetry (of which I still have)I think that would piss his wife right off now wouldn't it..maybe I should scan a few into facebook....ahh maybe..not. Don't need to be the shit stirrer!

So yesterday, I was sick as hell..went to work anyways toughed it out right? Came home slept all day from like 5:30 to about 7 this morning only waking up to pray to the porcelain God and go back to bed. My wonderful child woke me up as per the usual and then I checked my phone for any messages I might have gotten in my absence since I felt like I was pretty much absent from life yesterday. Low and behold, I get this email from my friend Ryan's wife


I AM RYAN WIFE
Gloria M P April 20 at 4:58am Report
DON'T EMAIL OR WRITE HIM , IF U DO I WILL DRIVE TO WHERE U ARE @ and break u r kneck

OK so, I think I found Ryan on here sometime last year and all we did was talk about our families, not even about our past or anything and I get this. This is from the woman that Ryan always talked so highly of and I thought was great for Ryan. Apparently and obviously my opinion of this woman has changed drastically. If I was single, Ryan is not the man I would go after. He is not my type. He is way too nice and just makes a great friend! So I reply

Crystal H K April 20 at 6:59am
Really? Wow.


Sooo apparently word gets to Ryan's mom..oh meanwhile Ryan is in Iraq defending his country and doing his job and now has this drama on top of his already difficult duty, lowering concentration on the task at hand because some unnessary crap has gone down at home! I haven't spoken to Ryan in months last I did speak to him he was having a little trouble with one of his step sons and I was telling him my latests on potty training troubles with Brandon. His mother hasn't said 2 words to me since junior prom, then out of the blue today writes this to me.

My son, Ryan! My daughter in law.
Wendy M. R April 20 at 3:57pm Report
Come on, you guys were only 16 years old! Puleeeeeze! clean it up, girl!

to which my reply was....

Crystal H K April 20 at 4:32pm
What? Really? She sent me an email telling me she will break my "kneck" and I need to clean it up? I haven't talked to ryan in months and when I did it was about our families so just leave me alone and have ryan delete me if its a problem!


I am pretty pissy that she even said anything to me. I mean 14 years ago was the last time I even talked to her and I asked Ryan how she was doing some time back.
So now I look at Ryan's friend list and count 10 women. 1 being his wife and 1 being his mother. He has 66 friends total. I don't know what happened between them, but I want no part of it! Leave me out of your drama..frankly if he would have just deleted me off of his friends list, I wouldn't have even noticed it for days more than likely.

shut the *#@! up!

My friend and coworker, Gary, killed himself a little over a year ago. He had some issues with his health that continued to fluctuate leaving him hospitalized several times. The issues started to affect him mentally and he ended his suffering.It completely pisses me off when someone that has no idea what happened, makes a joke about him or the situation. I just wanna tell these morons to shut the fuck up. But instead I keep my mouth shut. I know, unbelievable, but I do, or I think of a nice way to correct them. I even do that when I am helping a customer at work. If they argue with me or keep talking over me, I try to just let them speak then correct them when they are wrong. Persistent arguing makes me stoop to their level of ghetto, arguing back which I can easily do. For some reason I can get to the level quite quickly especially at the store I work at. Think before you speak you may sound more ignorant that you know.

next on the agenda

more on my opinion on gays and that very uneducated Baptist (sorry Baptist people for insulting you by including her with your religion)

I read a little more and watched more videos on this FAMILY aka church. Let me just say that, first, I feel completely sorry for her children. Not able to have their own opinion and will forever be virgins... and 2 who would have sex with this woman 11 times???? REALLY??????? 11 kids and all of them are as ignorant as a turd. When you have your children outside a military funeral protesting that God hates fags and that pretty much everyone but them is going to hell, you are an idiot. This woman has actually complained that people have tried to run her over, bombed her church and also shot at her. Is she asking for sympathy? Cause uhhh sorry but I support gay marriage and my troops and love my country with every inch of my soul so she can kiss my happy ass as I am on my way to the fiery pits of hell before I will feel the least bit of sympathy for her or her family. Here's a thought lady: If you don't want people to try to off ya, shut the hell up! Especially any where near a military funeral.

Another thought on the protesting at the funerals and the 1st Amendment right of free speech:

When you are at a military funeral, there is no place for protest. If it wasn't for the soldiers that gave their life, you wouldn't even have the right. Our military, past and present, has fought and died to preserve the right to free speech. If you don't support them, you don't deserve to have any rights, period.

I am proud to say that I am a straight, married woman with acceptance for everyone no matter what color, religion, or sexual preference. I have said it before and will say it again and again. I SUPPORT HOMOSEXUALITY!!! Who you sleep with is NO ONE'S business and doesn't change who you are!

religious FREAKS!

I am always opinionated about everything why let this moment of opportunity to step on my soap box pass me up.

I am not a very religious person. I believe in heaven and hell and God and the devil. I believe in an afterlife and in ghosts.

I believe in the Constitution of the United States of America and all that it stands for. I will do my best to not break any laws, to commit any crimes or to purposely hurt someone. I especially believe in the right to speak your mind. I think everyone should do that. Hell, if you don't people will walk all over you and you will never have a voice.

I recently read an article today that read Dad sues ‘Thank God for Dead Soldiers’ church.....

REALLY? This is a CHURCH? I heard of these weirdo people that go around and protest at soldiers funerals, glad they are dead, but had no idea it was because America supports gays, and more so had no idea it was a freaking church!!! I don't know of any place in the bible (I don't read it though, so correct me if I am wrong) where this is acceptable or justifiable to HATE someone because of what they believe in or support. I thought the bible explains how to get over differences and to love everyone regardless of what they look like or believe in? Am I clueless here?

Now, I come from a military family. See if you can keep up, my grandpa Himes was in the Army. My Grandpa Morin was also in the army. My dad and 2 of my uncles served in the military as well. I served my country and my husband serves his country to this day! I'LL BE DAMNED IF ANY OF THESE HYPOCRITICAL JERKS SHOW UP TO ANY MILITARY FUNERAL I AM EITHER A PART OF OR ATTENDING!!! So help me I will NOT put up with any kind of disrespect for any military person that GAVE THEIR LIFE for OUR freedom!!!! Don't these jerks know that without the same military that gave their life in the past, they wouldn't be able to speak their mind? What the hell is wrong with some people? It's perfectly fine if you don't approve of someones career choice but protesting at anyones funeral is disrespectful to the deceased as well as the family that supported and loved them! Someone that died for our country should be honored as a hero and given the up-most respect!! This day in age, you don't HAVE to be in the military, you CHOOSE to join! If you don't like what America supports then GET OUT! I hear Mexico has room!

reading and writing

I have discovered a passion for reading and writing.....



ROMANCE.

Or some would like to call it soft-core porn.

It doesn't matter what anyone thinks of it, the only opinion that matters is mine. I love to write romance and love stories. I have tried to write about other things but get so bored with those stories almost before they start. I have written several stories so far. I am really self conscious about my writing. I guess I don't want anyone to know how my mind thinks or think that maybe my mind is in some way like a man's in the fact that I...well..write and rather enjoy writing about sexual experiences. Almost unrealistic sexual experiences because the men in my stories are far too romantic. One day I will allow someone to read my stories or maybe a part of it but that day is not today.

What's on your mind?

I am hardly a model citizen. I say what I think, rarely thinking before speaking.

I am sometimes rude and obnoxious.

I hate repeating myself over and over to someone.

I am one of those people that when I start something, if you interrupt me to do something else, chances are, I won't get back to doing my original task and it will go undone or done half-ass.

Other people's kids get on my nerves much easier than my own son does.

I hate it when someone is always looking for someone else to blame for something that wasn't done instead of figuring out a way to get it done.

Jealousy, I can't stand. I hate when someone is jealous of attention I am getting instead of trying to get their own.

Stupid people should be removed from the population. We are talking common sense stupid here.

The United States is a 2-faced country with people wanting to separate church and state, but hate that gays want to get married because it's "not in the bible"

If you don't like something, then change it. If it can't be changed then you have to change you.

Not everything that is bad for you will have the same result for me.

Some religions are hardly religions, but more like cults with weird extremists that have too much time on their hands.

If I was president I would tell a lot of these countries we are always helping with nothing in return to piss off.

Fix the welfare system it is OBVIOUSLY broken. Another if I was the president moment: I would demand drug testing for everyone on welfare and also have a time limit on it and unless you have a damn good medical reason why you can't work, you need to be trying to find a job even if you have to scrub toilets, you better work. I am tired of busting my ass so most of these people can sit around and make babies, and live off my hard working money.

The United States Military deserves a pay raise before anyone in any political office does! If it wasn't for these men and women volunteering to protect and defend them, then they wouldn't be able to screw up our country anymore.

Mandatory enlistment for all United States male citizens at age 18. 2 year enlistment requirement.

All automated phone numbers that you have to press 2 for English should be disconnected! I should never have to press 2 for English! English should ALWAYS be the #1 language and if you don't understand English YOU press 2!

I will never understand a criminal mind, why anyone can hurt another person, especially a child, so contrary to popular belief, I feel I am half way normal because of that!

I think I am done for now. I know for a fact I didn't get everything. These are just a few things on my mind right now.

WOW, Ain't that just spiffy?

So, now that my sister has COMPLETELY cut me out of her life, I guess I can post about her now since I know she will never read it. Although most of me wants to just tell her to go to hell, I will not allow myself to stoop to such levels. I aught to stop writing now because I am madder than hell, but if I do that then I won't be able to get my true feelings out and pent up anger is only cause for medical issues in the future so here it goes.

Around my son's birthday, my mom came to visit. No biggie, right? I live 10 hours or so away from her, it's an easy drive. Mind you my sister, yea she lives about 3 days away (4 hours by plane) in Washington state.

Anyways I searched for the exact comment to get it read and to see exactly where it went wrong. I FOUND THE COMMENT!!! You aren't going to believe your eyes when you read it!! It was on my mom's page!


Dated: January 20,2010 at 6:56am. Mom put "is getting ready for her drive to Cincinnati.....I65 watch out"
comments are as follows:


Donna D make it a safe trip Patty!!
January 20 at 7:23am

Kim D Have fun Patty!
January 20 at 7:40am

Crystal Himes Kuhns oh no that means you are on your way here!
January 20 at 7:52am ·

Patty Vetter-Bacciri i can go to nashville instead
January 20 at 7:57am

Patty Vetter-Bacciri i am sure i can find something to do there for 5 days
January 20 at 7:57am

Tarylyn Himes Burge must be nice
January 20 at 12:46pm

Crystal Himes Kuhns Aww you wanna come visit sista? :)
January 20 at 12:57pm ·

Terry T V Have a great time!
January 20 at 4:03pm


Ok, so the confusion sets in now. Shortly after this status message was posted, mom noticed my sister's absence from the Bejeweled Blitz application and I did quickly after. The next day, my husband and my mom's husband were also missing her from their friends list.

I am not sure where in this message, (which is the last message that Tarylyn was seen to comment on) did I or anyone else insult her or anyone else in her family. I have no idea why my sister stopped talking to me. Am I upset? Sure. Am I going to lose sleep? HELL NO! My life will go on.

I am pissed because back in August I spent an unspecified amount of money to get 2 plane tickets to go up there to visit her for which I was so excited to do. I spent most of that week, in her house watching her play world of war craft next to her husband in their Internet cafe setup in their living room. Brandon was a turd, but he was 2 1/2. Her 3 kids were no angels either which is fine but I am not their mother and I had to step in and yell at Brandon several times for stuff I know he wasn't doing.

I love my sister and it totally breaks my heart that she has gone and pushed HER family away. The family she married into is her family too but have never been there for her when she was younger. Her posts on her blogs piss me off too telling lies about how my family was when we were younger.

this is from her blog entitled "my absence" dated November 14, 2009. I really really got upset at this and have answered her in the form of an unsent letter due to the fact that I am pretty damn sure she won't read it or even care if she actually did read it.


Saturday, November 14, 2009
My absence
I really didn't expect to not blog about my last post, but I think I just realized that people can COMPLETELY change and I think I am one of those people. I was brought up in a family that drank, got drunk, partied, etc just about every flipping weekend and I learned to loathe it because I saw just how absolutely STUPID people looked/acted when they were drunk. I grew up in a home that didn't actively go to any church and freely used language that was inappropriate (in my eyes). I just have changed so much since being married to Brad and regardless of what my family may think, I think I am a heck of a better person now than I was 10 years ago. I did enjoy my sister's visit, but it was NOTHING like how I planned it. We did have a lot of fun, but to be honest...we didn't spend much time together outside of road trips. Not that that is a big huge deal, but it wasn't what I was expecting after not seeing my sister for three years.
I guess this brings me to my most current rant...you know, family sometimes just...WOW. I have 2 parents that I love, and am most thankful for because they gave me life, but I feel so completely estranged from them that talking to my dad feels like talking to a complete stranger, and having a mother that wonders about my kids constantly but can't take five minutes out of her day to call me on my birthday when I know for a fact that she calls my sister every EVERY flipping day drives me... NUTS. Jealous? sure, who wouldn't be? I've been treated this way for 27 years and quite frankly should be used to getting the short end of the stick, but quite obviously I'm not because I'm blogging about it. I think the biggest thing for me is I just can't understand WHY...or WHAT is wrong with me that I cannot have the same love and affection given to me that is given to others. Its really not a big deal, REALLY it isn't, but you know what...I am just tired of it. I actually moved to Washington State, the decision to do that was made so much easier by the fact that I was trying to run from my problems. I am glad Washington is as beautiful and lovely as it is (and thankful for the family that I have here) because the problems followed me. But through everything...I am so thankful for the choices I have made and the life that I live. People may not like me for it, but I know that I am a better person. And if you cannot accept me for who I am, then that is your decision and it's on your shoulders, not mine.


My response was much longer and well ya know what I am feeling a little honest tonight so why not just post it! WARNING!! It's long and you can almost hear my anger and frustration!

Dear Tarylyn,

Upon checking my blog, I came across yours and saw your new post. And before I make my comments on it, I want you to know that I love you. I do. I love you very much in fact. So much so that it hurts to not be able to tell you in person how I feel and have to instead write either a blog or an email to which either you can just delete or not read at all. I am not good at hiding my feelings about anything and eventually if I don’t at least write down how I feel to “get it out” so to speak, I will just explode. I do express myself in written word real well as I see that you still do too.
There are several factors in this particular post dated November 14, 2009, that really stood out to me. I felt the need to personally address these points, due to the fact that you aired false accusations about MY family on a public blog.

First you said, “I was brought up in a family that drank, got drunk, partied etc just about every flippin weekend.”
question 1. What family did you grow up with? I ask this because I remember almost every weekend in Germany when dad wasn’t in the field or deployed, we were out sight seeing. Sure there were parties, and I’ll admit some of them probably got a bit out of hand but it obviously wasn’t that bad, we all survived.
question 2. Do you only focus on the negative? I know we didn’t grow up with a maid and a personal chef but I was never beaten to a pulp or given black eyes or sent to bed without dinner. We had a very normal childhood with parents that liked to have a good time. Maybe their idea of a good time doesn’t fancy you now but you never got hurt. Please stop saying that our parents were basically neglecting their children because it’s so far from the truth it isn’t funny.

Second “I grew up in a home that didn’t actively go to church and used language that was inappropriate (in my eyes).”
OK back the steam roller up here! Sure we didn’t go to church as a family but I remember several times (numerous in fact) where we went with friends. And going to church doesn’t make you a better person. There are people in jail that were religious before going and probably still are but still did the crime to get in there. I still don’t go to church but that doesn’t make me any worse of a person.
The language issues has me rotflmao! Seriously? Do we need to revisit the days of holes in the walls, throwing scissors and them sticking in the wall, cussing like a sailor? Kudos to you for not using that language anymore but some of the stuff you say is still quite inappropriate in front of your kids (to me anyways).

Now on to my visit with you. You said “I did enjoy my sister’s visit, but it was NOTHING like how I planned it.”
How about you share some of what you had planned? When I got home I wrote in my journal about my trip. Every single day, in some detail. I had a great time but I can hardly call it a vacation. Yelling at not 1 but 4 kids just about every day drove me crazy! The worst part was I was always punishing Brandon every single time even though I know it wasn’t always his fault. I tried to help you out, I really did but my gosh I wasn’t there to take over. I was there 7 full days and when we weren’t out doing something you were on your computer. I even tried to talk to you once when I organized the entire bucket of legos into corresponding stacks of size. Seriously? And my visit wasn’t want you expected!? Think about it: I spent however much money to get there, paid for nearly everything we did and then sat around your house in between while you played World of Warcraft. Come on you said it yourself it had been 3 years since you saw me. you think due to that fact, you would change your gaming routine to spend time with me. Sure it’s hard with the kids at each other’s throats to do anything adult, but there had to be something to talk about. So, tell me what you were expecting?

“I have two parents that I love and am most thankful for because they gave me life, but I feel so completely estranged from them that talking to my dad feels like talking to a complete stranger, and having a mother that wonders about my kids constantly but can’t take five minutes out of her day to call me on my birthday when I know for a fact she calls my sister every flippin days drives me...NUTS.”
TIME OUT!! WHAT?
My relationship with both my parents is due to me desiring to have one. I want to be in touch with my mom. And contrary to what you believe, she doesn’t call me every day I usually call her and I don’t call her every single day either. Yes, we talk often because I talk to her like she is my friend. She is the person I go to when I need someone. I don’t have many friends I can do that with so while mom is here, I am going to call her as often as I want. The funny thing here is NO ONE IS STOPPING YOU FROM DOING THE SAME THING!!! Your relationship with our parents is only what YOU make of it. It is a 2 way street when it comes to them because they know we have our own little lives that we created with our husbands. We have kids and they demand so much of our time. They also have lives too. You just have to force your way in and become a part of that life. You and I are two completely different people. Yes we have the same parents, but that is about it. I see things almost on a whole nother spectrum than you do. I love to talk to people and meet new people. I am not shy at all. You are very reserved and don’t really talk to anyone. We are going to see the same thing, differently. The way mom and dad love you, I am sure is exactly how they love me. You have to accept it the way you feel comfortable and if it’s not good enough, then tell them!!

I am really glad that you are happy with your life that you created for yourself. I hope that nothing ever makes that happiness fade. I am sorry that you moved to Washington state to “run away from your problems”, I am not sure what problems you were running away from or if “problems” in this context is referring to “family”. I do want to let you know that before you push every single person in YOUR family away forever, just remember, IF something should happen between you and Brad, that WE will ALWAYS be your family. I will ALWAYS be your sister. I want to be there for you if you should you ever need me or want me there. I sincerely love you but if you keep saying stuff like this, and airing it publicly ( I know not too many people read it but it’s still there), then you will be doing just that. There is nothing wrong with you and no one loves you any different. It’s all about how YOU see it and accept it. I want and CRAVE that love and affection so I go after it!!
Please remember, I am writing this to YOU. I didn’t call mom or dad and tell them what was written or anything, they can read for themselves. I wrote this to let you know that your blog hurt ME. I hope after you read this, if you read it, that you will still talk to me. If not then I hope that you at least read it and will think about what I wrote. I will always be here for you!



I have also just recently changed my phone number and she doesn't have it. I don't have plans to give it to her either.